Resolve Conflicts - Instant Relief for a High Vibration pt.1

The article teaches a fabulous method for dealing with your own internal energy after having an unhappy experience with someone. You will learn how to settle your energy, deal with the other person, and create the most positive outcome possible.

Step One: Deal with Yourself First

No matter how spiritually elevated we are or how ritual we have become over the years, when we find ourselves in a conflict with someone else, regardless of the effort we tried to put towards having a different response, each and every one of us is still always lowered to that gut, human response of frustration and anger. You no longer need to feel bad about this. The truth is, we all love peace and comfortable feelings; how often do people avoid change for the simple desire to feel less friction? So we all want to have peaceful relationships and peaceful days and nights and environments, however, when something comes into our environment that is not peaceful, even if we have learned to practice great self-control, internally, we still feel those negative feelings.

Acknowledging those feelings is the first step to overcoming them. Some of the things that we try to do to avoid those feelings create a counter effect. Things like: ignoring our feelings, justifying the situation, sweeping it under the rug, so to speak, etc. Instead of trying to act like we don't feel the way we feel, we should instead take those feelings as a sort of signal. Our body telling us that there's something going on that we need to address.

So in these situations we need to deal with ourselves first. The most helpful thing that you can do is recognize that whatever the other person involved in the situation has done, their actions are really a reflection on you, your thoughts, and how you feel about yourself. I know that sounds a little strange, and that someone else's actions could have something to do with you, however, when you begin to accept the fact that each and every one of us create our reality, that means that no one can bring something to you that you do not allow or are not somehow perpetuating yourself. Usually these are possibly have about ourselves that we are not entirely happy with, things like not believing in our abilities or having negative thoughts about the future; things will always show up in your life to validate what you've been thinking in your mind.

Given this fact, whenever you have a conflict with another person, the fastest way to get to the root of the situation and resolve is to begin by identifying what feelings this situation is bringing up with him you and what pattern this particular situation may hold for you. In other words, having this argument with someone for? Is this topic since it to you because it's about something that you don't like to discuss about yourself or are not confident in about yourself? When you identify what is within yourself that is bringing up the situation, you can address this thing and plot a path for resolving the problem both internally and externally.

Step Two: Give the topic a Moment to Rest

Once you identify the source within you that is perpetuating your current experience, it's very helpful to give the entire topic of arrest. If you have not been able to figure out what it is that the situation is calling forth in your visibility, it is also helpful to give the top arrest.

The problem with giving any topic that is sensitive to you a rest is it usually when we tell ourselves not to think about something, we kind of find herself thinking about it more. Also, if the situation in question is something that is really emotional for you, it is very difficult to not carry the situation into every other part of the day. It is very important for us to practice the ability to compartmentalize our emotions. In other words, if you have one bad thing happen in the morning time and you carry that badly needs a lunch and dinner you've literally ruined the entire day. But if you practice compartmentalizing your emotions, kind of like you were able to do as a child but unlearned to do as an adult, you can have a situation happened in the morning that you either deal with and let go or decide to not let it bother you and then have a great lunch buffet dinner and overall have a pretty good day. So, during this resting period, it's very important to literally put down the thing that's bothering you and do other things that make you feel better. Doing this will help you to resolve the conflict sooner, also, if you allow your energy to stop fueling the anger and frustration of that of man, you will be able to resolve it much sooner.

Step Three: Go Ahead and Rationalize, You know you want to

During this time of rest, you may find yourself wanting to rationalize and justify their position. It's okay to do that. Our minds are constructed in a way that makes us want to understand and process every single thing that happens in our lives. Whether it's a great things are not so great thing, it doesn't matter. The brain is a computer that is built to crunch numbers, your daily life experiences. So, if you need to have a better understanding of what happened in that conflict in situations and if you need to soothe yourself by rationalizing your point of view in your actions to make yourself feel better, do it! Anything you can do to make yourself feel better at any point in time is the best possible thing that you can do in your life. Feeling better about your position allows you to send your grip on the topic. When you lose your grip on topic your energy becomes lighter and solutions are able to more easily flow in your direction. Also, when you loosen your grip, you automatically lighten the amount of negative focus you have a situation which will immediately begin to make that situation improve.

Step Four: Have an Argument With the Other Person

Once you have given yourself some time to cool down and have a less aggressive position, you can begin to resolve that conflict. The first step to flow in your energy towards the direction of resolution is to have an argument with that person. Not a literal argument with them. Not an argument to their face. An argument by yourself and alone. Am I telling you to talk to yourself? Yes. You do it all the time anyway so you might as well making constructive. The point of having this argument by yourself but directed towards the other person in the situation is for you to get out all of your frustrations and complaints. If you "talk to that person"about how you feel, the negative energy. Fueling the situation and everything will be able to settle down. So in this so low argument, let it all out. Say everything that is bothering you and, if you're able to, conclude the argument with what your desired next step results would be if you were actually having this conversation with the person in question.

Step Five: Step Back From the Topic a Minute

Now that you have completed the areas that everything you want to say, take a rest. Let your energy settle, but your feelings balance out again, and let yourself have time to process and release everything you just went through.

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